the last thanksgiving
i worked thanksgiving night.
i dragged my heavy ass to work determined to have a grateful spirit.
well, the freeway was almost empty. also, i parked closest to the building. the hospital gave us free food. i have my loved ones. i have my friends. and i left the house showered with wet kisses from the little ones. it is always an overwhelming feeling, to drive away with three men (one grown up, and two, trying to look grown up) standing at the garage, waving endlessly nonverbally saying, “come back soon, okay?”
also, whether others acknowledge it or not, i know for sure that there is Someone faithful who always gives me free air to breathe, and lets the sun shine. i have everything i need, and as if i am really nice, i have a lot of the things i want. i am grateful. beyond words.
i clocked in with a real smile on my face.
then, i looked behind me, and i saw the “blue leather covered thing”. i have no idea who designed this corpse cart; but i hate it. well, maybe not really because of its design, but the fact that it is telling me somebody’s son, or daughter, or mom, or dad, or spouse, or friend, just left.
i found out very little about the dead guy. in his early 40s. married. he just came from the cardiac ICU. he was terminally ill. it was expected. they’ve been “prepared”.
still. it sucks that people die on a holiday. it sucks because everytime you remember that holiday, you remember something sad. you spent your life celebrating thanksgiving with all the joy and noise of having your family. then, all of a sudden, your memory never goes back to those lovely years. all you remember is that chilly thanksgiving night when you have to sign the death certificate. and the sight of that ugly, cold, blue leather thing that wheeled the body away.
i tried to think of that guy being grateful. i mean, if he could have raised his voice in thanks before he passed, he probably whispered to his wife that he was happy to have her there. he probably thought of how he finally can have that needed “rest”. no more needles, no more tests, no more pain. no more uncertainties, no more frustrations, no more sadness.
it lightened my mood a little bit.
but still. it sucks that people die on a holiday.
not that it doesn’t suck when people die on a regular day.
it’s just that some turkeys can be pretty big and heavy, it is difficult to prepare it alone.


Amen to that. I lost my great-grandmother and a very good friend the day after Christmas (different years) and nearly lost my sister on Thanksgiving 2000. The holidays have never been the same. Death sucks any day of the year, but the holidays are a particularly difficult time to lose a loved one. It’s good to see someone in the medical profession acknowledging that. Thanks.
Comment by Erin — November 29, 2005 @ 2:35 pm
you’re right-it sucks when people die-period. But it seems to be worse when it’s around a holiday built on giving thanks.
Comment by kimmyk — November 29, 2005 @ 3:50 pm
I especially like your last line. All of life can be difficult alone.
Comment by mamalife — November 29, 2005 @ 6:43 pm
May, your last line sure nailed it. Very insightful.
Comment by Anonymous — November 29, 2005 @ 8:53 pm
yep, your last line summed it up. Gave me a little chuckle too. Good writing.
Comment by Dustin B — November 30, 2005 @ 9:16 am
Conversely, it must also suck to be born on certain holidays.
Think of the poor kid who pops out of his mom on Christmas day.
That sort of child will never have a regular birthday party like the rest of us, and some cheapo relatives will “combine” Christmas and birthday presents, gypping the child out of their fair share of loot.
Not that I’m bitter or anything.
Comment by shrimplate — December 2, 2005 @ 8:47 am
I still haven’t figured out why people go around the holidays. I’m sure it’s not on purpose though.. Being “alone” on the holidays even when surrounded by well-meaning people can be hard..
Comment by Nurse Practitioners Save Lives — December 4, 2005 @ 4:47 pm
oh gosh your last line made me tear up!
Comment by MAUREEN — December 5, 2005 @ 11:20 am
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