i kept it shut, and i’m proud of myself
i have an opinion about everything. i know my opinions are not sensical all the time, so there are a lot of times when my opinions are never heard, because i keep it all inside my big mouth, unspoken.
do you find it easy to keep your mouth shut? you do? you mean i am all alone in this? you mean you don’t find it very hard to keep your mouth shut even if the topic being discussed is something you feel very strongly about?
i better get some training from you guys, because honestly, i find it extremely difficult to keep my mouth shut, especially if i feel very strongly about something. fortunately, no matter how difficult, i also think i do know when to zip it. well, okay, sometimes i don’t.
this is not some magical moment of self discovery, but i am learning. i know that there are times when the smartest thing to do is to keep one’s mouth shut. that being said, i am very proud to announce that yesterday was one of those days for me. it just goes to show that growing older does make one become wiser. how is that for self enlightenment?
how i managed to sit through a 2 hour staff meeting without acting all opinionated was almost unbelievable, but it did happen and i have about 20 witnesses to prove it.
i am going to work again tonight. needless to say, you will be spared the boring details. for now.
however, i don’t call blogging therapeutic for nothing.
tomorrow, you will hear about how i became the smartest woman who ever attended a staff meeting. and more. not that you should be excited, but still. you think you can stop me? well, not technically, but feel free to shut me up.
I gave up on our staff meetings years ago. I haven’t attended one in five+ years.
NOTHING ever gets solved, and too much time is given to people who excel at whining rather than working.
Instead I read the minutes and roll my eyes, rather than sit through two hours of nonsense while biting my tongue.
Comment by Ms.Chievous — April 24, 2007 @ 11:42 pm
I’ve learned when to voice my opinion and I choose my battles more wisely because when it’s all said and done, I’m not sure it makes a difference.
Comment by kimmyk — April 25, 2007 @ 5:32 pm
I can never keep my mouth shut either … it is no fun anyway … I love getting worked up with all of it!
Comment by KimmyK - the other one — April 25, 2007 @ 6:29 pm
It wouldn’t matter if I kept my mouth shut or not, everything I am thinking is very apparent on my face.
Comment by ERnursey — April 25, 2007 @ 8:21 pm
I have found through the years that I can fit both of my feet in my mouth at once, and still have room to spare.The one thing I have found out however, is that voicing your opinion is not always a bad thing if done properly. I have learned that most of the “big bosses” that i have worked for are willing to listen if approached the right way. Speaking to them in their office works well for me. The person I am speaking to is in their own comfort zone so the tensions aren’t as high. Also, I usually start out by acknowledging they are the boss, and that I am just there to let them hear my side of things, not to argue with them. Acknowledging their position of authority is another way of reducing the tension. If the boss doesn’t feel like his/her back is against the wall, he/she won’t feel threatened and will be more likely to listen better.You won’t always get them to change their mind this way, but over a period of time you will gain their trust and respect. Soon after that you will see things starting to happen.The biggest key is to go in with an honest approach to exchanging information without arguing. If nothing else, by doing this you will have “gotten it off your chest.”
Comment by Joe — April 26, 2007 @ 3:26 am
Contributing opinions and feedback is always a good thing because it shows that you are actively listening and understanding the person who is speaking. It’s how you deliver the opinions and feedback that affects how others receive it. It also helps everyone learn and grow!!
Comment by Ren Su — April 26, 2007 @ 9:40 am
[…] anyway, this is why it took a lot of energy for me not to speak out. there were a lot of other stuff that sort of irked me, especially all those tidbits related to our JCAHO (which by the way, wants to be called THE Joint Commission now) preparations, but i don’t really want this post to be THAT boringly long, so i just ranted on the main issues. believe me, i didn’t mean to be sarcastic (well, maybe i did. a little bit), but do we really have to own all of the blame? […]
Pingback by the french pedicure. a LONG story » about a nurse — April 26, 2007 @ 10:50 am
The last staff meeting I attended was October 2006. I left so mad from all the horse manure and what not that I have given up on staff meetings. Except I may attend a few here and there because we are paid to attend.
Comment by Labor Nurse — April 26, 2007 @ 3:41 pm
never keep your mouth shut! speak out… I dont know coz for me its really hard to tame myself. (LOL)
Comment by melo villareal — July 13, 2007 @ 6:12 am