Comments on: sleepy, but not sleepy enough to stop ranting http://www.aboutanurse.com/2007/12/sleepy-but-not-sleepy-enough-to-rant.html a nurse blog. Thu, 20 Nov 2008 18:50:47 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.7 by: Stu http://www.aboutanurse.com/2007/12/sleepy-but-not-sleepy-enough-to-rant.html#comment-66584 Sun, 30 Dec 2007 18:25:39 +0000 http://www.aboutanurse.com/2007/12/sleepy-but-not-sleepy-enough-to-rant.html#comment-66584 You are a professional and deserve respect for this - if these people had another vent for their frustrations then that patient would have been just another patient. job done. people can be impossible at times and i hope you can forget their rudeness, i'm sure it was borne simply of their worry about your patient - i've seen far worse ;) i don't know you, but i am confident that you are what you appear to be - your confidence takes a knock, it can ruin your day or week - and the person that does it is ignorant of the damage they do. but confidence heals a little bit stronger every time. keep on with the good work You are a professional and deserve respect for this - if these people had another vent for their frustrations then that patient would have been just another patient. job done.

people can be impossible at times and i hope you can forget their rudeness, i’m sure it was borne simply of their worry about your patient - i’ve seen far worse ;)

i don’t know you, but i am confident that you are what you appear to be - your confidence takes a knock, it can ruin your day or week - and the person that does it is ignorant of the damage they do. but confidence heals a little bit stronger every time.

keep on with the good work

]]> by: kimmyk http://www.aboutanurse.com/2007/12/sleepy-but-not-sleepy-enough-to-rant.html#comment-66573 Sun, 30 Dec 2007 14:45:06 +0000 http://www.aboutanurse.com/2007/12/sleepy-but-not-sleepy-enough-to-rant.html#comment-66573 aww may. i'm sure they know you are a great nurse. it's just their loved one and they want everything under the sun done for her, ya know? i wouldn't ever second guess yourself or feel bad for not wanting to deal with that sort of behavior for one night. every now and then we all need a break. happy new year to you and your family! aww may. i’m sure they know you are a great nurse. it’s just their loved one and they want everything under the sun done for her, ya know? i wouldn’t ever second guess yourself or feel bad for not wanting to deal with that sort of behavior for one night. every now and then we all need a break.

happy new year to you and your family!

]]> by: PD Warrior http://www.aboutanurse.com/2007/12/sleepy-but-not-sleepy-enough-to-rant.html#comment-66471 Sat, 29 Dec 2007 12:44:55 +0000 http://www.aboutanurse.com/2007/12/sleepy-but-not-sleepy-enough-to-rant.html#comment-66471 As a nurse, I've had multiple encounters with all kinds of saints. In my humble opinion the only reason any of them exhibit any sort of patience at all is simple; they no longer have they energy or strength to run away... Unfortunately as a society, we are too blind to recognize the saints that still have some energy/strength left, mostly because we ourselves cannot keep up with them - thus they remain anonymous. My advice to you, May, is this: Enjoy your anonymity while you can, because eventually someone will recognize you for what you are, and the mantle of sainthood will be bestowed upon you. From that point on there will be no escape... As a nurse, I’ve had multiple encounters with all kinds of saints. In my humble opinion the only reason any of them exhibit any sort of patience at all is simple; they no longer have they energy or strength to run away…

Unfortunately as a society, we are too blind to recognize the saints that still have some energy/strength left, mostly because we ourselves cannot keep up with them - thus they remain anonymous.

My advice to you, May, is this: Enjoy your anonymity while you can, because eventually someone will recognize you for what you are, and the mantle of sainthood will be bestowed upon you. From that point on there will be no escape…

]]> by: Sid Leavitt http://www.aboutanurse.com/2007/12/sleepy-but-not-sleepy-enough-to-rant.html#comment-66427 Sat, 29 Dec 2007 01:19:47 +0000 http://www.aboutanurse.com/2007/12/sleepy-but-not-sleepy-enough-to-rant.html#comment-66427 I think Kaliki is right. A lot of that frenetic behavior by family members is guilt, perhaps some of it undeserved. Because I do know that having a loved one in the hospital makes family members feel helpless. They want to help -- maybe feeling they should have helped earlier, before the loved one was hospitalized, a feeling that may or may not be justified. Unfortunately, their desire to be involved now, as demonstrated by the husband and daughter you describe, can turn out to be most unhelpful. But I think you already know all this. And I think you are a very, very good nurse. I think Kaliki is right. A lot of that frenetic behavior by family members is guilt, perhaps some of it undeserved. Because I do know that having a loved one in the hospital makes family members feel helpless. They want to help — maybe feeling they should have helped earlier, before the loved one was hospitalized, a feeling that may or may not be justified. Unfortunately, their desire to be involved now, as demonstrated by the husband and daughter you describe, can turn out to be most unhelpful.

But I think you already know all this. And I think you are a very, very good nurse.

]]> by: Cinder http://www.aboutanurse.com/2007/12/sleepy-but-not-sleepy-enough-to-rant.html#comment-66407 Fri, 28 Dec 2007 18:40:28 +0000 http://www.aboutanurse.com/2007/12/sleepy-but-not-sleepy-enough-to-rant.html#comment-66407 May,you are a saint to put up with what amounts to verbal and emotional abuse from those family members. I don't know why but when some people hear the word NO they think they just didn't ask loud enough and need to escalate,kind of an adult "temper tantrum". Yes their behavior probably arises from guilt but that doesn't make it any better. Definitely rotate that pt and family around the nurses to keep things sane. And people wonder why there is a nursing shortage. May,you are a saint to put up with what amounts to verbal and emotional abuse from those family members. I don’t know why but when some people hear the word NO they think they just didn’t ask loud enough and need to escalate,kind of an adult “temper tantrum”. Yes their behavior probably arises from guilt but that doesn’t make it any better. Definitely rotate that pt and family around the nurses to keep things sane. And people wonder why there is a nursing shortage.

]]> by: Kaliki http://www.aboutanurse.com/2007/12/sleepy-but-not-sleepy-enough-to-rant.html#comment-66357 Fri, 28 Dec 2007 01:57:18 +0000 http://www.aboutanurse.com/2007/12/sleepy-but-not-sleepy-enough-to-rant.html#comment-66357 I really, truly believe that if you are seeing very bad and unreasonable behavior from a family, there is a huge amount of guilt underlying that behavior. I am a hospice nurse, and when I see families doing this act, I quickly find out they regret something they did or did not do. This does not make it any more pleasant, though. I really, truly believe that if you are seeing very bad and unreasonable behavior from a family, there is a huge amount of guilt underlying that behavior. I am a hospice nurse, and when I see families doing this act, I quickly find out they regret something they did or did not do. This does not make it any more pleasant, though.

]]> by: shrimplate http://www.aboutanurse.com/2007/12/sleepy-but-not-sleepy-enough-to-rant.html#comment-66356 Fri, 28 Dec 2007 01:20:33 +0000 http://www.aboutanurse.com/2007/12/sleepy-but-not-sleepy-enough-to-rant.html#comment-66356 One shift of that is plenty enough. Where I work we generally honor a nurse's "first refusal," meaning that if they've cared for a patient and do not want to do it again, they do not have to. They get to refuse to take the patient first, because they've already had them. There might be a "second refusal" by another nurse who's already done their time with a tricky or annoying situation. Usually I myself take patients with such families, but I have to admit sometimes I'm just not in the mood for that sort of craziness. One shift of that is plenty enough.

Where I work we generally honor a nurse’s “first refusal,” meaning that if they’ve cared for a patient and do not want to do it again, they do not have to. They get to refuse to take the patient first, because they’ve already had them.

There might be a “second refusal” by another nurse who’s already done their time with a tricky or annoying situation.

Usually I myself take patients with such families, but I have to admit sometimes I’m just not in the mood for that sort of craziness.

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