i hope i made it clearer that we are not on opposing sides here. on the contrary, we are on the same page. thank you again for sharing your thoughts.

i did not think of anything else about the way she said it because i assumed the context of what she said was the idea that after all her hard work, trying to get healthy, she will just have cancer after all, and will eventually die. i am further assuming that if she had surgery to lose the excess weight, she will say exactly the same thing, considering the meaning of what she really feels. it’s just like saying: “what was the point?”

maybe if i started the second paragraph with “she said she did it” it would have been clearer. i won’t edit it, but yeah, that’s what it’s supposed to be. thank you for expressing your thought. i appreciate your honesty and i understand what you mean. i apologize if the the way i related this the story made you feel uncomfortable. that is not the intention of this post.

May, you are such a thoughtful and understanding person that I couldn’t keep quiet on that comment. What you are implying is that methods for weight loss outside of the traditional “will power” of diet and exercise don’t count. Surgical weight loss is a tool used to enhance diet and exercise, particularly when diet and exercise have failed over and over for the person. Many think it’s an easy way out, that it’s cheating, but you can’t go and have bariatric surgery and continue to over-eat and sit on your butt.

If this woman had lost that 100 pounds with bariatric surgery, she would have still put in the same effort to have a healthier lifestyle; getting cancer would have sucked just as much.