the invisible war zone
“i don’t want to talk to her.”
i looked at her.
“she’s. an. idiot.”
i just kept looking at her.
“sorry, but she is.”
i wonder what she would have said of i told her what the doctor she was calling an idiot said about her. i admit i was tempted to spill it, just to provoke her and watch what happens next. i decided against it because it was late, and honestly, it was not the kind of drama i wanted to be a part of.
despite the lack of elaborate explanation, i’m pretty sure you can imagine how the supposed idiotic physician felt about her back biter. she was quiet in front of her, but i know what she said. it wasn’t pretty, and i have witnesses.
i don’t know what it is, but i find it very amusing that SOME doctors who hate each other’s guts and so called stupidity have no qualms whatsoever in lashing out their opinion about each other in front of us nurses. God forbid that they will be called frank and/or rude, they are completely civil in front of each other. nodding and saying okay like they mean it in front of each other, holding back like some temperate beings terrified of saying what they really think.
when left alone with the nurses, the one sided war begins, and their true colors surface.
i never ask, but it usually makes me think that other than the obvious motive of venting, they also expect us to pick a side and agree with whoever is talking. it fascinates me that even though they are more powerful than me in a lot of ways, they sort of value the approval i can possibly utter when circumstances like this occur. or, it equally amuses me that they thrive on the false ego boost this kind of thing can bring by belittling their fellow doctors.
would it gratify any of them if i declare their being correct and join the bashing behind the other one’s back? or would it aggravate them if i oppose their declarations and defend the one who is unavailable to defend himself? clearly, a game is being played here. what is unclear is the fact that both sides could be losers. or winners. if it’s not a game, why don’t they keep their mouths shut?
when i think about it, it’s sort of childish. but, when you look at it in a different angle however, it probably is the exact definition of professionalism. who am i to really know?
anyway, as a patient, this little piece of information is not that trivial. it may, or may not be helpful to you.
it could make you realize that your doctors are humans too. that just like you, they love playing games too. then, you will really listen to them, and be more compliant.
or, it could make you cringe at some of the words that they say about each other when the curtains are pulled, and when they assume you’re oblivious to it all. then, you will really listen to them, and be more compliant.
hopefully.
Nursing Scrubs
That sounds so, middle schoolish… But you’re definitely right, it definitely makes a person realize that doctor’s are humans too (and in my case, not someone to be scared of). When I volunteered at my local hospital when I was younger, I was always so afraid of actually having to talk to a doctor because they seemed so “high up” to me.
Comment by Eva — July 25, 2008 @ 10:47 am
i’ve seen many doctors talk that way about people. it takes me back sometimes, but then i realize not everyone has to like everyone, but still…choose your words people!
Comment by kimmyk — July 25, 2008 @ 5:25 pm
You wonder if you ever left high school.
Comment by Strong One — July 27, 2008 @ 6:17 am
I wonder if they were female doctors. I’m not being sexist but this kind of bi***ing normally happens between two (alpha) females and they could be nurses as well, usually happens when the unit is not so busy and when the other party is obviously not around.
‘This bloody nurse is having an affair with this bloody doctor blah blah…’
They don’t care even if there’s a young, gentle, male nurse sitting between them in the nurses’ station.
“He didn’t laugh, being bashful; lowered his head and looked at the wall”
Comment by howling — July 30, 2008 @ 12:06 pm
Humans are brutal.
Even animals don’t attack each other without provocation.
Mind you…
Maybe they are an idiot.
Theres one in charge of the country so why not!!!
Comment by Kj — July 30, 2008 @ 7:49 pm
People talk. It’s okay. They know that I am not the sort of person who repeats things I’ve heard, blogging excepted.
Heh.
Comment by shrimplate — July 31, 2008 @ 10:57 pm
OMG! Iv’e been in the same predicament too many times at work, Dr’s lashing out at each other behind their backs, then inevitably they override the other’s orders, and this starts the fued..I hate it when they “don’t play well with each other” as I call it. Hee hee.. reminds me of high school, as someone else commented..But I believe it also has to do with the territorial thing to SOME docs of WHO is the MAIN doctor, and WHOSE patient it ultimately IS.. nevermind the fact that THEY consulted the other doctors in the first place.. UGH.. we have this doctor at our hospital who has multiple consults for EACH & EVERY patient, and then gets mad when the consults come in & change his lab orders..they call him Dr. McConsult..we nurses just roll our eyes, knowing nothing will change.
Comment by Lilwickedgirl — August 13, 2008 @ 5:43 am
Hello,
I know this Person who wrote this blog ! She is one of the GREATEST Humans’ I have ever meet and she is may ex-girlfriend , she is one of the BEST nurses in this world ! If I may say a one thing about her ; Look into her eyes when she comes home after adays work with no Dr. B.s. and no Head Nurse yelling all day ……..But when she has been on top of a person , pumping their chest to stay alive !!!!!!!
………………………That who I Still LOVE AFTER 3 1/2 year apart !
That is Why You Nurses Are the Best People on Earth !
Even Better Than Plumbers ! LOL
Love you , Sorry for all I ave done !!
Comment by Mark Barber — October 2, 2008 @ 7:38 am
HEY MARK, YOU MUST BE 1 LONELY,SORRY SOB.
Comment by TOM — November 10, 2008 @ 10:45 am